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For the first letter: Maybe stop taking her out?  What if you just went on a walk, went to a bookstore, got a cup of coffee?  Then you could see if she was just using you for your $, which sounds like what is going on.

@AtlantaGirl: The only problem is that the girl shows no promises of ever reciprocating. Your idea seems like a good balance, but she sounds like she’s just being a mooch. She probably expects him to buy her clothes and baubles too.

I’m a Democrat!  lol I do a lot for a guy, in fact I like to spend time coming up with ways to show him how much I appreciate him taking us out.  And eventually as you get to know someone, you spend less time going out and more time staying in for dates.  I’m a great cook, so I prepare all his favorite things and bake him goodies to take home.  I listen carefully to his favorite authors, musicians, etc and pick up little tokens to show him I was paying attention to him.  Guys I have known were much happier with something thoughtfully chosen as a surprise (Bon Jovi tickets anyone?) than if I pick up the tab for a couple of rounds of drinks on the first date.

Okay, this letter is, I think, a brilliant juxtaposition to all the other posts about the role of salary between men and women. The Frisky staff are crafty little bloggers.

@Humble Bee,

I hope it takes more than a taco from a taco stand to make you drop them.

How does the first letter know what she makes and her expenses. I don’t get how people expect all this fancy spending. Most of these single parents are making $10 or $11 an hour even if they make $20 an hour, hello, rent, utilities, little kids, they need sneakers, etc.

These men expect women to put out for them and then pay for dates. Ugh! Things have gotten so raunchy. It is our generation’s fault, we need to train these men to stop expecting free sex and hookups without even a date.

Come on Ladies, have some self respect.

Stop giving it up so soon, make them respect you.

@hlnbabe, you make an excellent point, it comes back to the same topic we were arguing over so intensely just a few days ago.

I always thought it depended on who had put forth the invitation. When I invite my boyfriend out, I don’t expect him to pay. If I was on a date because I was asked on one, I wouldn’t offer to pay.